It is hard to be a mom.
I’m so proud of my wife. Currently she’s a new mother, a business owner/partner, a daughter, and my best friend.
When we decided to have our first child, we thought we had everything figured out. We were able to get a house, both work from home and budgeted our finances to afford having our child. We are very blessed to have our ducks in a row.
But after having our child, we didn’t account for the other big challenge in new parenthood.
More specifically, I’m talking about postpartum depression. I’ve heard about this issue during birthing classes, but I thought to myself:
“Nah. I have everything figured out. I don’t have to worry about that. I know how to keep my wife happy.”
Due to my lack of understanding, i felt powerless against this new emotional state my wife was in. I try to be as emphatic as possible, but if someone or something makes my wife sad, as a husband, it is my job to fix the issue and make her happy again.
But for some reason, I couldn't help her. I didn't know why until my wife completely explained what postpartum depression really is. It’s a chemical imbalance, due to hormones, that happens to women after birth that makes them sad and anxious and they can’t control it.
After hearing this, this made me realize, “damn. It’s hard to be a mom.”
Guys, think about it.
For 8 to 9 months, you have to carry this new human in you.
During these months you have to:
- change your diet
- stop drinking alcohol altogether
- buy new clothes
- get stretch marks
- visit the doctor often
- gain weight
Then during birthing:
- Feel cramps for 1 to 24 hours
- If needed, get a needle to put a flexible tube between two of your spinal discs
- Push a baby out of you
- Try not to tear the skin between “those two holes down there”
- If you do tear, get stitched up
- Push out a placenta
Then 1 hour after you give birth:
- Start feeding that baby
- If breastfeeding, learn how to do that, on the spot.
Then after you’re sent home:
- Feed that baby every 2 hours
- Change the diaper constantly
- Don’t expect sleep
- If you live in the United States, expect to go back to work really soon.
- If you get stitches down below, always clean down there after each potty break.
- Scared you might rip your stitches while pooping? Take laxatives.
- Expect your hair to start thinning out or falling out.
And if you think it ends there, nope. This is when postpartum depression kicks in.
All of these experiences made me realize that men have it way easier.